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Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Quiet Time

It was done.  Now what?  My entire life changed completely but what is my next move?  There should be something that I should be doing, but I have no idea what it would be.  For about a week, I just felt really sorry for myself, but then life started again and I had to go to physical therapy, doctor appointments, psychologist appointments, etc.  I had some kind of appointment every day, and it really helped to keep my mind off what I just did.  I had to focus on me and try to get my life back in some kind of order.  I was still not able to walk, or drive and was still not sleeping (when that was all I wanted to do).

At the agency, they kept telling me that I should write a letter to Ryan to let him know my feelings.  I didn't know what to say to a child I only met a few times.  I started thinking about it, and I realized that even though I only knew him briefly, I would carry him in my heart forever, so I wrote.

I told him how much I love him and that I chose adoption for him and not for me.  I knew that I would not be the mother that he needed and knew that R. and J. would give him a wonderful life and love him more than anything else in the world.

It just came from my heart and the letter turned out several pages long, but the thing I kept repeating was that I loved him.  I never wanted him to think that he wasn't wanted or love, and that he was never a mistake, I have made so many mistakes in my life, but Ryan is not one of them.  He is a miracle.

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